What is Self-Love?
A common misinterpretation of Self-Love has led people to believe that they could receive love for themselves only through others.
“Love yourself as to your other half” means love the two as equal as possible. A simpler version is “Love your partner and yourself”.
Giving progressively and aimlessly will drain you out, you are not giving from a sustainable place. Eventually, you give yourself away and then there is nothing left to give as your tank is not refilled.
How not to love until you lose love for yourself, or lose yourself.
1. Understand that a relationship contains 3 entities. You, your partner, and the relationship itself. Respect and love the relationship too, not just the significant other. Should anything goes wrong, you can look into the resources of the 3 entities and not just yours alone.
2. Take responsibility for your own reactions, emotions, and the ability to meet your own needs. Do not try to find that right person who can give you what you desire rather, find the right partner who can fulfill your needs together and also ensuring you have the ability to fulfill his/hers too.
3. Most people have this mindset that they lack something. We may have a belief that we have to do something to be someone and be complete. The truth is, we already have everything we need to be complete, it is just about activating it. You are complete. Nobody has the right to think you are not.
4. The more you take care of yourself, the greater you expand your capacity to serve others. And if you think you are a part of their world (whoever they may be), then by not serving yourself well, can you serve others any better?
Serving yourself isn’t selfish, it’s actually one of the deepest signs of caring for others you can show.
I take my mum for example, she used to love the pork belly and deep fried crispy stuff like a kid. Then ever since she witnessed my struggles with the various medical conditions years back, she made a major change in her eating habits. She cuts down tremendously on meat and eats mainly veg and cereals. She is also on multivites to ensure she is getting sufficient nutrients for her aging body.
What is this? This is love. The love for herself so to be able to love us.
You’d always be in time to make a change on how you love others and yourself. Stop doing anything to hurt yourself. Live Right, Love Right.